A little Pause on the women and Girls Empowerment

The regime on women and girls’ empowerment is rapidly growing. 

We all can admit from the rise in number of organizations advocating for the empowerment of women and girls and the sensitivity of this topic. 

This agenda began at a better state of solving and filling the gaps where women are able to voice their ideas and opinions without being held back by societal fear and the patriarchy. 

In every movement, there are objectives and visions that are aimed to be met. Feminism didn’t miss out on this idea. From the statistics, feminism began in the late eighteenth century which is termed the first wave. The goal was to open opportunities for women. The second wave began in the 90s when the angle was on awareness of sexuality and reproductive health. While the third wave was on advocating against the biased stereotype of a woman cannot have it all (beauty and brains).

The mission was to speak on behalf of the women who wished to access employment, leadership, equal pay, access education, and reproduction, that was the original plan.

Modern feminism seems to have missed the point of the struggle for the last three centuries. We are at the point where the agenda has shifted its direction, from being the agenda that empowers and protect women to fighting against each other and men, on which gender is better than the other. 

It’s quite disturbing when you try to understand what feminism is all about, when all you hear is bitterness from women who are still battling healing. This doesn’t mean this piece is to invalidate anyone's feelings or justifying the emotional damage one had to go through or endure. 

The part where our women have compensated and diverted all their hurt into working on their careers, and building empires and use that to encourage young women who hope for love and marriage, that if you can have financial security you are as safe as being an island is totally a delusion and a common characteristic of toxic feminism that is not talked about. At the end of the day, a society’s mindset is built on perception, and sometimes not everything that’s shared is based on reality rather individuals’ prejudice.

We are in an era where there is a need for a woman to prove her worth by matching the masculine energy of a man. Who said when the notion of gender equality was introduced, it meant acting and doing things like a man? 

The aim was to have equal rights and have an opinion and access the political and corporate spaces without being shamed for being a woman.

The results of all this masculine energy have led to undermining the women who wish to be full-time mums, wives, and women who have no career going on because of the shortcomings of early pregnancies, teenage pregnancies, failed marriages, and single parenting. 

On the other hand, women who have the desired family, shame the career women who have chosen to go all the way and work, women who wish to not have kids or get married, and the ones who have chosen to take charge of their reproduction. 

The most shamed women are those who are financially independent and have successful careers. 

It’s sad how another woman chooses to use all these accomplishments to put down another woman for not having a stable relationship or a love life. Instead of being the first person to celebrate her for breaking bias and being bold enough to go against normalcy.

If there is something women or women advocates should publicize and fight against is the toxicity among women. It seems we are our own enemies when we are supposed to empower and support each other into becoming the best version of ourselves. 

By that, at least we will be building a society that is not only stable but happy.