How to build a Healthy Relationship in this generation

Welcome to a generation that desires affection, and longs for love but would rather mask their emotions operate on ego and allow others to define a good relationship for them. When all that most of the people in this generation desire is simple date nights, movie nights late-nightlight walks, ice cream dates and tight hugs.

There is a say that says, whomever you choose determines how far you will go in life, which makes this subject on relationships worthwhile having. 

Each day we hold conversations on dating either with friends, family or colleagues and most times it's based on our experiences where we all make fun of them, talk about our partners, things that ick us in relationships and sometimes we take the conversations to the next serious level of how cultures view relationships and the standards set by our cultures.

How to build healthy relationships is one of the rare conversations most people hold. This leaves us wondering what a healthy relationship looks or feels like. 

A good relationship is built by two individuals who have intentionally decided to work on themselves and come together to pursue each other with love, kindness and respect.

A quality relationship is seen at its onset. How you start a relationship determines how strong and how long the relationship will be. 

Here are a few things I have noted when it comes to building a healthy relationship.

Be honest. 

Boldly talk about your career, vision, marriage goals and expectations, the lifestyle you desire, how long you want to date

Encourage open conversations

You both have to initiate small talks to first build trust and a connection. Talk about your interests, and hobbies, joke around with each other and share some funny fun moments that appear embarrassing.

Nourish each other spiritually 

Feed each other Enlighten each other on aspects of God and the word of God, and challenge each other to grow spiritually, the goal is to see each other become better.

Encourage public dates

This will allow you to know how your partner relates to other people, and get to know their favourite things and activities. 

Engage each other intellectually

Get to have conversations around all life spectrum, like politics, the economy, your careers, how to elevate financially, family, and your interest, like real estate. This can be done by having engaging games, movies, sports activities traveling together and hikes.

Be authentic

Authenticity is so underrated when in reality it is what most people are looking for. People want to connect with people who can be themselves outside their jobs, businesses and positions. People want to know the small aspects of you that make you a unique human, how you giggle, how you enjoy baking. Authenticity is rare and valuable when found.

Explore together

Find activities that you both enjoy or would like to try together. Find life together, create memories, and take pictures together.

Encourage each other and speak life to each other.

In most relationships, partners compete instead of accepting each other with their flaws. There is always something your partner is better at that you are unable to do, instead of shaming each other acknowledge your flaws, embrace them with compassion, show up for them allow them to grow while still together. At some point, you will outshine your partner which will encourage disrespect but you should not let it get to you. Most relationships lose their meaning and touch due to pride and ego which then catalyse them to chase others with the thought of getting better. Truth be told sometimes the grass is never greener on the other side. It's about picking someone who completes you and is willing to grow with you. 

With all these, all I can say is that it's easier said than done. Building a healthy relationship requires patience, consistency, love and kindness. Hope this will guide you into building a healthy relationship.