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How to heal from your self-sabotaging tendencies

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Self-sabotaging is a current word that has gained popularity in this generation, thanks to the advancement in technology that has eased the learning process for so many individuals who seek growth and knowledge from the internet. This wouldn’t have been possible without the introduction and embrace of therapy from psychologists and therapists.  As human beings, we have characters and patterns that influence how we operate and relate with others. These patterns are influenced by our past experiences, either by people we have encountered, what they feed our minds, or what we grew up watching from those around us. Despite the fact that the word self-sabotaging is widely spread, you will only notice these tendencies when you become intentional with self-awareness. This will guide you in understanding why you act the way you do or notice certain patterns in your life. Which will guide you in finding ways how to work on them as well as help you in your interactions with other...
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The Beauty of Healing

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In a world where toxicity and unresolved trauma is glamorized as ‘being yourself’, I decided to look deeper into myself and figure out how to become a better version of myself and break the cycle of passing trauma and hurting those around me just because I was hurt. It takes sincere intentionality and accountability to acknowledge that it is true you are hurt, you have hurt others, and you need to be better. As a babe who has her greatest desire in not only growing and shining in my career, business, and spirituality, I knew deep down I desired a healthy home where I could be a great mom, wife, sister, aunt, and daughter.  I made a decision in 2020, four years down the line, that I have to become a decent human who acknowledges who I am and what I have been through and create a different version of myself instead of living the life and a version of me that was created by hurt people. Over the years, I have learned growth is gradual and time is required as well as intent...
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Happy New Year (2025)

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Happy new year folks! Hope you had a blast end of year and a bliss beginning of 2025. Well, I get it, it has been a while since I stepped foot on these streets of TaleforTale a space where we dine and mesmerize in knowledge on spirituality, lifestyle, health and money in other words just tips and ideas of stepping up as a Christian babe in the twenty first century.  Well as an empowered babe in this modern life, I have been quite occupied with making ends meet and finding a balance in my whole life spectrum. That means I am finally experiencing what adulting is and how to go about it.  The growth is quite interesting and by this, I mean it is exposing me to adulthood challenges, responsibilities and am forced to grow up from being a girl to a grown woman. Truth is it is not as simple as I imagined but I am glad I am experiencing this and trying my best to step up. As a young woman there is a lot I have experienced and it would be unfair if someone older told me I s...
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What it means to be a Christian

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The idea of being a Christian has been quite debatable for ages in history. The objection of it being the most amplified voice.   This has brought so many questions like; who Christ is, what's the Trinity, who is God and what is life after death.  So many theories have been formed to justify and some to object the whole idea of having something greater than humanity is incharge of everything in the universe. Naturally we all have an idea of who God is, though from different understanding and perspective which we all refer to it as religion.   The foundation of Christianity is first built by the family you come from. Most people come from homes where there was an emphasis on faith and teachings of who God is. Either from a grand parent father or a mother but someone in your family must have nurtured the idea of God in you.   Secondly socially, apart from your family those you interact with play a vital role in shaping your perception of who God is. And ...
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Lessons I am learning as a 24-year-old

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Growing older seems like the best idea when you are a teenager until you get into your 20s when you face the real world with real people outside your home.  This narrative may not be similar to everyone depending on how your childhood looked like, where you were raised and the family you come from.  The reality hits you well once you join corporate or the workspace. That's when real challenges are confronted. You will think you know it all until you interact with people. You meet people who exasperate you, people you will build lasting friendships with and systems that do not work for you and are forced to cope with, you will grapple with people and still learn how to endure and resolve conflicts urbane way, you will begin to unlearn and relearn everything you have learnt in school and adapt to the new things and style taught with the new workforce. A lot will transpire, and you will feel like quitting, but your desire for growth and unfulfilled dreams will summon you to be a ...
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What is Salvation

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Salvation is one of the complex questions a believer is asked.  Despite living in a modernised world where knowledge and references are all over. A lot of information can be distorted while others might be misinformation. Salvation is a process. From the point where your soul begins to burn for God and his spirit in your life to the point where all you desire is to be consistent in showing up in accordance with his spirit.  Salvation is personal. One of the most unspoken truth. Yes, it is true our parents teachers, peers and pastor influence our relationship with God but a better part of our faith in God is a solo job. When it comes to salvation, no one rises deciding to have a relationship with God or be saved. It is God who begins to soften our hearts and makes it easier for us to desire him.  As a Christian one of the most profound phrases on influencing others on matters of faith is when the bible says, you are the salt and the light of the world. Which ma...
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How to build a Healthy Relationship in this generation

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Welcome to a generation that desires affection, and longs for love but would rather mask their emotions operate on ego and allow others to define a good relationship for them. When all that most of the people in this generation desire is simple date nights, movie nights late-nightlight walks, ice cream dates and tight hugs. There is a say that says, whomever you choose determines how far you will go in life, which makes this subject on relationships worthwhile having.  Each day we hold conversations on dating either with friends, family or colleagues and most times it's based on our experiences where we all make fun of them, talk about our partners, things that ick us in relationships and sometimes we take the conversations to the next serious level of how cultures view relationships and the standards set by our cultures. How to build healthy relationships is one of the rare conversations most people hold. This leaves us wondering what a healthy relationship looks or fe...
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