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Things I Had to Learn and Work on Before Becoming a Mum

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Motherhood is beautiful, but it is also one of the greatest responsibilities life can give. Before stepping into this role, I realized that it wasn’t just about preparing for sleepless nights, diapers, or feeding schedules—it was about preparing myself as a whole woman. I had to learn, unlearn, and work on different aspects of myself to create the foundation I needed. Here are some of the most important things I had to embrace and work on before becoming a mum: 1. Emotional Stability Children feel what their mothers feel. I had to learn how to manage my emotions better, remain calm in stressful situations, and not let anger or anxiety spill over. Emotional stability has become my anchor—helping me to be present and balanced for my child. 2. Mental Strength Motherhood is demanding. From labor to sleepless nights to balancing personal goals, I had to build resilience. Strengthening my mind has helped me face challenges with courage instead of fear. 3. Spirituality I leaned in...
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The Hand That Feeds You Can Also Starve You: How Feminism Redefined the Modern Woman

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The “hand that feeds you” might once have been the only lifeline women had. But in today’s world, women have learned to feed themselves — and that changes the power dynamic forever. The question now isn’t whether women have changed… but whether society is ready to keep up. In the 1700s, a woman’s life was bound by her husband’s authority. She couldn’t own property, couldn’t manage her own money, and if she earned an income, it was rarely equal to a man’s. Survival meant submission, and submission wasn’t a choice — it was the only option. Fast-forward to today, and the picture is very different. Hyper-independence among women isn’t just practiced — it’s celebrated. This change was propelled by the second wave of feminism, which fought to free women from economic dependence and give them financial freedom. Yet here’s the twist — while the modern woman thrives in her independence, society rarely examines the deeper story behind it. Women have embraced the “new normal,” but many men strugg...
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How to heal from your self-sabotaging tendencies

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Self-sabotaging is a current word that has gained popularity in this generation, thanks to the advancement in technology that has eased the learning process for so many individuals who seek growth and knowledge from the internet. This wouldn’t have been possible without the introduction and embrace of therapy from psychologists and therapists.  As human beings, we have characters and patterns that influence how we operate and relate with others. These patterns are influenced by our past experiences, either by people we have encountered, what they feed our minds, or what we grew up watching from those around us. Despite the fact that the word self-sabotaging is widely spread, you will only notice these tendencies when you become intentional with self-awareness. This will guide you in understanding why you act the way you do or notice certain patterns in your life. Which will guide you in finding ways how to work on them as well as help you in your interactions with other...
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The Beauty of Healing

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In a world where toxicity and unresolved trauma is glamorized as ‘being yourself’, I decided to look deeper into myself and figure out how to become a better version of myself and break the cycle of passing trauma and hurting those around me just because I was hurt. It takes sincere intentionality and accountability to acknowledge that it is true you are hurt, you have hurt others, and you need to be better. As a babe who has her greatest desire in not only growing and shining in my career, business, and spirituality, I knew deep down I desired a healthy home where I could be a great mom, wife, sister, aunt, and daughter.  I made a decision in 2020, four years down the line, that I have to become a decent human who acknowledges who I am and what I have been through and create a different version of myself instead of living the life and a version of me that was created by hurt people. Over the years, I have learned growth is gradual and time is required as well as intent...
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Happy New Year (2025)

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Happy new year folks! Hope you had a blast end of year and a bliss beginning of 2025. Well, I get it, it has been a while since I stepped foot on these streets of TaleforTale a space where we dine and mesmerize in knowledge on spirituality, lifestyle, health and money in other words just tips and ideas of stepping up as a Christian babe in the twenty first century.  Well as an empowered babe in this modern life, I have been quite occupied with making ends meet and finding a balance in my whole life spectrum. That means I am finally experiencing what adulting is and how to go about it.  The growth is quite interesting and by this, I mean it is exposing me to adulthood challenges, responsibilities and am forced to grow up from being a girl to a grown woman. Truth is it is not as simple as I imagined but I am glad I am experiencing this and trying my best to step up. As a young woman there is a lot I have experienced and it would be unfair if someone older told me I s...
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What it means to be a Christian

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The idea of being a Christian has been quite debatable for ages in history. The objection of it being the most amplified voice.   This has brought so many questions like; who Christ is, what's the Trinity, who is God and what is life after death.  So many theories have been formed to justify and some to object the whole idea of having something greater than humanity is incharge of everything in the universe. Naturally we all have an idea of who God is, though from different understanding and perspective which we all refer to it as religion.   The foundation of Christianity is first built by the family you come from. Most people come from homes where there was an emphasis on faith and teachings of who God is. Either from a grand parent father or a mother but someone in your family must have nurtured the idea of God in you.   Secondly socially, apart from your family those you interact with play a vital role in shaping your perception of who God is. And ...
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Lessons I am learning as a 24-year-old

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Growing older seems like the best idea when you are a teenager until you get into your 20s when you face the real world with real people outside your home.  This narrative may not be similar to everyone depending on how your childhood looked like, where you were raised and the family you come from.  The reality hits you well once you join corporate or the workspace. That's when real challenges are confronted. You will think you know it all until you interact with people. You meet people who exasperate you, people you will build lasting friendships with and systems that do not work for you and are forced to cope with, you will grapple with people and still learn how to endure and resolve conflicts urbane way, you will begin to unlearn and relearn everything you have learnt in school and adapt to the new things and style taught with the new workforce. A lot will transpire, and you will feel like quitting, but your desire for growth and unfulfilled dreams will summon you to be a ...
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